Rihanna finally broke her silence about her relationship with Chris Brown on Good Morning America with Diane Sawyer yesterday morning.
She admitted that she was terribly embarrassed after being beaten so badly by Chris Brown – even though she wasn’t at fault – and she went back to Chris at first because she loved him so much and just wanted to forget it.
But when she realized that going back to Chris could result in other young girls going back to their abusers and getting killed or harmed, she decided she had to end her relationship with him.
She admitted feeling ashamed for falling in love with such an abusive person.
“Don’t react off of love,” she counseled others. ”Act love.”
“Come out of the situation and look at it third person for what it really is and then make your decision; because love is so blind.”
Chris Brown began serving his six-month community labor sentence in his home state of Virginia for assaulting Rihanna today.
He tweeted “On the way to community service” on Twitter his first day with his photo.
Brown’s sentence includes more than 1,400 hours of graffiti removal, washing cars, cleaning and maintaining grounds.
He must also received five-years probation, must attend a year of domestic violence classes and pay fines. He is also forbidden from contacting Rihanna for the next five years.
Chris Brown publicly apologized for assaulting Rihanna recently, asking for everyone’s forgiveness. He admitted that what he did was totally inexcusable. His video was first shown July 20, 2009, on YouTube.com
Here’s the video. Don’t know how we missed this earlier!
I think his apology is quite commendable! What do you think?
Ever since Chris Brown was charged with beating, choking and biting Rihanna during their Feb. fight, it’s been rumored that Chris had hit her before but she kept coming back to him anyway.
That’s exactly the reason why so many people and society in general has turned their backs on abused women – because they keep going back for more.
Most reasonably well-adjusted people just wouldn’t do that, and they can’t understand – nor do they want to – why women would keep going back for more.
We have to teach women that it’s not a victim’s fault if someone hits her, but it IS the victim’s fault if she keeps going back for more.
Our nation needs to help millions of girls and women how to improve their self-esteem and quit settling for boys and men who physically, sexually or verbally abuse or demean them.
Tragically, so many girls and women accept this demeaning treatment from their boyfriends and husbands because they grew up being treated that way by their fathers, step-fathers, mothers and other family members. They either think that’s just the way it is for everybody, or they just don’t deserve any better.
Ladies, there are so many good men out there! Abuse is NOT the way it is for most people!
We applaud Dove soap for its fine Campaign for Real Beauty to help girls to build their self-esteem! More groups need to take such commendable actions!
After singer Chris Brown pled guilty yesterday to beating, choking and biting Rihanna in a fight Feb. 8, his attorney, Mark Geragos, said Chris was accepting responsibility for his actions.
Hooray! And it’s about time! Whether he really is or not remains to be seen, but at least it sounds good!
We all have to accept responsibility for our actions, and then accept the consequences. As I’ve often been told, we can choose what we want to do but we can’t choose the consequences. They’re usually fixed, in one way or another.
Millions more men (and women) who have chosen to lose control need to accept responsibility for their actions, as well. Many of you probably need to get help with doing so. No shame in that!
Many abusers grow up witnessing violence and it’s all they know. I should know – I grew up witnessing violence and did use some abusive language and behavior with my children at times until I realized the harm it was doing. Then I sought professional counseling for help and it changed my life!
Abuse wouldn’t happen if abusers wouldn’t choose to abuse. That’s so true. It’s not the victim’s fault if a man chooses to hit, choke or bite a woman, as Chris has now admitted he did.
But n the other hand, it is the victim’s fault if she keeps going back for more. As Oprah says, “If he hits you once, he’ll hit you again!”
Men and boys, quit hitting and berating women! You can’t get a good one to stay with you if you mistreat her. And you do want a good one, don’t you?
Chris Brown pled guilty yesterday to felony assault of Rihanna last February and the two were ordered to stay at least 50 yards away from each other, except at events, when it’s 10 yards.
Just learned that, for the first time publicly, Chris Brown addressed his fans about the Rihanna situation May 27 with this new video, claiming he is not a monster:
Evidently Rihanna has obtained a protective order against Chris Brown after all.
The order, filed yesterday in Los Angeles Superior Court, says Brown must not “harass, strike, threaten, assault (sexually or otherwise), follow, stalk, molest, destroy or damage personal or real property, disturb the peace, keep under surveillance, or block movements of” Rihanna.
The three-year order will not expire until March, 2012.
According to sources close to Rihanna and reported on E-online, Chris Brown nearly choked her to death while threatening to kill her, after blackening her eye and then leaving the scene.
She was unconscious at one point.
Police were so concerned about her condition that they rushed her to the hospital without waiting for an ambulance.
Their quarreling began Saturday night at a pre-Grammy award party and exploded when Rihanna took his silver Lamborghini car keys and tossed them out the window.
Wrigley announced yesterday that it will drop singer Chris Brown from it’s Doublemint gum TV ad, pending the investigation into his alleged assault charge against his girlfriend Rihanna.
Bravo to Wrigley for taking a stand against domestic violence!
Far too few people are willing to speak out against even alleged abusers! For example, when Dallas radio station host Russ Martin was arrested for allegedly beating up his girlfriend last year, we called for his suspension by CBS radio station “Live 105.3,” until he had his day in court. Most of the domestic violence shelters in Dallas were even too timid to join us in calling for his suspension! They said they wanted to wait until Martin’s grand jury hearing, to see if he was charged.
If we want to ever eliminate domestic violence, then we can’t wait! Teachers and police arrested for crimes are suspended pending investigations. Why shouldn’t alleged abusers receive the same treatment?
Martin finally was charged by a Tarrant County grand jury with a misdemeanor, but that all died down when 105.3 recently switched formats and Martin was let go.
Nevertheless, we hope the next time that someone is “charged” with family violence that domestic violence advocates will take a stand and speak out just as they always tell victims to do!
