Singer Chris Brown accepting responsibility for his actions?

 

After singer Chris Brown pled guilty yesterday to beating, choking and biting Rihanna in a fight Feb. 8, his attorney, Mark Geragos, said Chris was accepting responsibility for his actions.

Hooray! And it’s about time! Whether he really is or not remains to be seen, but at least it sounds good!

We all have to accept responsibility for our actions, and then accept the consequences. As I’ve often been told, we can choose what we want to do but we can’t choose the consequences. They’re usually fixed, in one way or another.

Millions more men (and women) who have chosen to lose control need to accept responsibility for their actions, as well. Many of you probably need to get help with doing so. No shame in that!

Many abusers grow up witnessing violence and it’s all they know. I should know – I grew up witnessing violence and did use some abusive language and behavior with my children at times until I realized the harm it was doing. Then I sought professional counseling for help and it changed my life!

Abuse wouldn’t happen if abusers wouldn’t choose to abuse. That’s so true. It’s not the victim’s fault if a man chooses to hit, choke or bite a woman, as Chris has now admitted he did.

But n the other hand, it is the victim’s fault if she keeps going back for more. As Oprah says, “If he hits you once, he’ll hit you again!” 

Men and boys, quit hitting and berating women! You can’t get a good one to stay with you if you mistreat her. And you do want a good one, don’t you?